When Nick Curry first met Khalia, he wasn’t looking for love. In fact, he was more focused on self-discovery, understanding who he was as an individual, and building a solid spiritual foundation. But as fate would have it, their connection grew, not through romance at first but through an honest friendship rooted in shared values. “There was something different about her,” Nick recalls. “She made me see myself more clearly, and it made me realize what was truly important in a relationship.”
Nick and Khalia Curry are on a mission to bring authenticity and faith back into the conversation on relationships. With their upcoming book, There’s an ‘I’ in Marriage, they aim to debunk myths around love, emphasizing that the journey begins with individual growth and a strong foundation in faith. Through personal stories, hard-won insights, and a blend of friendship and faith, they hope to inspire singles and couples to look inward first, creating relationships that reflect purpose and harmony.
Khalia (left) and Nick Curry (right) posing for their upcoming book release.
Their book, There’s an ‘I’ in Marriage, is not just a guide to relationships but an invitation to examine one’s heart and values. The idea came to Nick after seeing friends and family struggle with marriage, often facing disappointment due to unrealistic expectations. “I wanted to create a resource that would help people see marriage differently, from a place of self-awareness and spiritual alignment,” Nick explains. “It’s about knowing who you are and who God is calling you to be.”
The Currys believe that one of the biggest misconceptions in modern dating is the idea of “finding the one.” For Nick and Khalia, the key lies not in seeking a perfect partner but in becoming a person rooted in one’s own identity and values. “If you’re waiting on someone else to ‘complete’ you, you’re already at a disadvantage,” Nick says. “A strong relationship starts with two whole people—not halves looking for completion.”
Khalia chimes in with her own reflections, emphasizing how society often glorifies the idea of love as a fairy tale but leaves out the reality of the work and commitment that go into a healthy relationship. “Love isn’t always glamorous,” she notes. “Some days, it’s about showing up even when it’s hard, choosing kindness even when it’s easier to walk away. And it all starts with choosing to know yourself and accept the imperfections.”
Their mutual commitment to personal growth and spirituality has helped them navigate the complexities of marriage. “One of the most powerful things we did was to commit to growth individually and as a couple,” Khalia shares. “We knew early on that we wanted our relationship to honor God and that we’d have to make that a priority in our daily lives.”
Nick’s own experiences before meeting Khalia helped solidify his belief that a successful marriage depends on more than love. After navigating his own faith journey, he saw that personal accountability was crucial. “So many people look to their partner to be everything,” Nick says. “But no one person can fill every need. Part of our message is to let God be that center—and not to expect another human being to fulfill the role only God can.”
Their approach to teaching about relationships is refreshing, often blending personal narratives with practical wisdom. Khalia recalls one instance early in their marriage where their commitment to honesty and openness was tested. “I remember having to bring up a tough conversation, and I was nervous about how Nick would react,” she recounts. “But his response was a reminder of why we chose each other. He listened, didn’t rush to defend himself, and genuinely tried to understand where I was coming from.”
For the Currys, these moments of vulnerability are foundational. Nick describes how they prioritize what he calls “heart check-ins,” regular times to sit down, reflect, and realign with each other. “Relationships change over time, and so do we as people,” he says. “Checking in with each other has allowed us to grow without growing apart.”
Khalia adds that it’s their faith that keeps these “check-ins” meaningful, grounding their marriage in a larger purpose. “It’s not just about the two of us. We have a vision for our marriage that aligns with God’s vision,” she says. “So, when things get tough, that purpose keeps us going.”
Their hope for There’s an ‘I’ in Marriage is to create a space for both singles and married people to feel seen and understood, especially those who feel disillusioned with the modern dating landscape. “People are frustrated, lonely, and sometimes lost when it comes to love,” Nick says. “We want to give them hope, but also remind them that they have a responsibility to themselves first.”
In sharing their personal experiences, the Currys aim to challenge the belief that selflessness in marriage means losing oneself. Instead, they argue, it’s about becoming the best version of oneself and sharing that with a partner. “A good marriage requires work, but it doesn’t require losing who you are,” Khalia says firmly. “It’s about finding joy in growth, both separately and together.”
As Nick and Khalia Curry prepare for the launch of their book, their message is clear: love is not a destination but a journey that starts within. By centering faith and self-awareness, they hope to inspire a new generation to look at marriage not as an endpoint but as a divine partnership where each individual’s growth is celebrated. “Our prayer,” says Nick, “is that people come away from this with a new perspective—that true love isn’t about perfection but about patience, purpose, and partnership.”
Nick and Khalia Curry posing together for their upcoming book, "There's and 'I' in Marriage"